Here’s a great quote from Mark Cuban, billionaire owner of the Dallas Mavericks and other stuff, from his blog:
“I have told just about everyone who has ever partnered or reported directly to me, that I can get so focused or involved that I lose sight of some thing(s). When that happens, you have done your homework and are confident in your position,¬†and when I don’t listen, raise your voice. Figuratively, literally, I don’t care. I don’t see decibels as a sign of disrespect. I see fear to communicate a needed message to me as a sign of disrespect. If you don’t care enough about our product, customer, company, employee, whatever it may be to step up and let me have it when I’m screwing up, then you don’t care enough to be here.”
That works if you’re not insecure about receiving criticism. Cuban obviously doesn’t mind being told that he’s wrong. Wouldn’t work with every boss. Wouldn’t work with every pastor, for that matter. But it’s a nice attitude to strive toward.