That’s me sitting down, surrounded by Dad and Jonathan. My theory was that if you’re sitting down, you won’t lose your balance and fall off the roof.

On Saturday, we reshingled Mom and Dad’s roof. Pam and I went, ostensibly to help. Pam actually did help. I mostly stayed on solid ground. Heights don’t work well for me. Standing on a chair doesn’t work well for me.

My brother Stu brought quite a crew. There were his sons Benjamin and Jonathan, his daughter Paula and her husband Tom, and then Brian, a friend of Tom and Benjamin. Benjamin was clearly the boss, because he knew what he was doing. When anyone encountered a problem, they called for Benjamin. A few weeks earlier, this whole crew reshingled Benjamin’s fixer-upper house in Willshire, Ohio, which made Dad’s house seem like a cake-walk. In Willshire, Paula was suspended along the side of the house by a rope, which went over the top of the two-story house and was tied, on the other side, to Benjamin’s Jeep. She was scared to death, yet game.

The hope was to keep Dad off the roof. We’d just as soon that he not spend his senior years in a full-body cast. But we knew, deep down, that he’d inevitably climb topside. That came very early, when the truck was lifting shingles onto the roof, which was still frost-covered at that point. Dad climbed the ladder, crept up to the crest, stood, and walked–a bit shakily–over to Jonathan and Stu. Oh well. That’s Dad.

I was also able to hide behind my Miniere’s Disease, which had been acting up all week. It affects your balance, which affords an airtight argument against traversing rooftops. But when a call went out in the afternoon for someone to distribute shingles, I headed up, feeling like I should justify my existance. The first obstacle, of course, was moving from the ladder to the roof. I conquered that one with bravado. I then found myself on a small portion of the roof, above an add-on room, which is not slanted much. Alas, they needed me elsewhere, where the slope was much greater. I moved over there, feeling like I was wearing aluminum shoes on loose gravel. I stood there a bit, considering my balance anxieties. Paula noticed.

“How about if you take my place helping Brian, and I work over here?”

In other words, Paula was flat-out calling me a scaredy cat. But at age 49.94, I’m beyond the need to reaffirm pride. So I eagerly acknowledged Paula’s youthful wisdom and consented to her suggestion. Working with Brian meant I could stay on the less-inclined part of the roof, where I did not feel, constantly, like I would keel over and tumble overboard.

One time I watched Benjamin, with a stack of shingles slung over his shoulder, jaunt along the edge of the roof and merge seemlessly onto the ladder. No more difficult than opening a car door and climbing in. He’s my hero.

It was a fun day. And Mom fed us home-made noodles. Always a selling point for me.

The link below leads only to a bunch of pictures from the day’s festivities.

Benjamin (right) and his longtime friend Brian. Benjamin was pretty much in charge.

Brian (sitting) and Paula.

L-r: Dad, Stu, and Joyce (Stu’s wife) taking a break. Stu, my brother, was not feeling well. Maybe you can tell.

Dad and Joyce in the backyard looking up at the workers.

Jonathan, my nephew, mugging for the camera.

Jonathan, Tom (Paula’s husband) and my wife, Pam.

Pam and Paula.

Stu toiling by himself.