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Amazing Events in My Life

I’m experiencing a lot of firsts, and most of them revolve around Connor. Allen and Carolyn let me borrow him regularly. I call it getting my “Connor fix” for the day. I just must hold the little guy.

Tonight, Allen and I were left with Connor while Pam and Carolyn were out getting Carolyn some new shoes. He began getting fussy, so I picked him up and held him. But he didn’t stop. I asked Allen what I should do to calm him, and he said, “I don’t know.” Allen is real good with Conner. But I guess babies are not an exact science.

So I stood and bobbed up and down, like I’ve seen mothers do. I felt like a total idiot. I kept my bob to a minimum, trying to retain some dignity, but enough motion so that it counted for something. And gradually, Connor settled down. And then, suddenly, magically, he was asleep. In my arms. His head pressed into my shoulder. I couldn’t believe it. I felt like I had just scaled Mount Everest, such was my sense of accomplishment. And I didn’t want to ever let that moment stop.

I eventually sat back down on the couch, with Connor laying on my chest, and he slept soundly, right there, for a good hour. Maybe more. No way did I want to put him down. When he began stirring, I cradled him in my arms, and he went back to sleep. Thus did we dance for two hours tonight, until I finally gave the sleeping tot to Allen.

This is all run-of-the-mill stuff for most people, who’ve either had babies or been around babies. For me, this is all quite new.

Here are some more photos:

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Mismatched Socks

Today I’m wearing all brown–sweater, pants, shoes. But to my horror I see that I’m wearing blue socks. They sure looked brown when I picked them out of the drawer in the dark. I guess that’s what lights are for.

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Sweeeet!

On the way home from work today, a little red car was really pushing me. I had to speed up faster than I wanted so I could pass the car in the right-hand lane and then get over myself. When I did, the red car zoomed on by.

A few miles later, I came upon a police car with flashing lights. He had just stopped someone. And words cannot express my delight when I saw it was the little red car.

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Our Version of a Hot Date

Today Pastor Tim preached from Song of Solomon and showed the fabulous “Flame” NOOMA video from Rob Bell at Mars Hill Church. It also happened to be the anniversary of his very first date with Tara (I forget the number–13? Something like that). Tara sang, as a surprise, the song she sang at their wedding: “All of Me,” by Stryper. Tim was expecting a different song, but she secretly arranged this with the worship team and we played it live.

Tim talked about remembering the things you did when you were dating. He told about a typical date he and Tara have now (eat, movie, Starbucks–I think that’s the basic formula), and recalled what they did when they were dating.

So I got to thinking about what Pam and I enjoyed doing when we were dating. We often–at least once every two months–spent Saturday doing what to us was marvelous, but which would have been boring to most couples. We would drive to Fort Wayne and hit the various used bookstores. We started with the Book Rack on South Calhoun, near Rudisill (this store has since closed). Then we drove to a large used bookstore at Georgetown on the east end of town (this store later burned down). Then we hit the Book Rack on East State Street (it’s still there). And we ended at a bookstore near Glenbrook Mall located in a house (with used books in every nook and cranny; it closed some years ago).

That was our idea of a fun date. We would come home with gobs of novels, all bought at half-price. And a few weeks later, we would do it all again.

When Pam has continuing education CPA seminars in Indianapolis, I take the day off and accompany her. While she’s learning stuff, I kick around in computer, music, and bookstores. She had a seminar two weeks ago. When I picked her up at the end of the day, we headed straight to our favorite store: a huge used bookstore in the Castleton area. We both left with a bunch of books (Pam with a gob of Christian novels). So used bookstores remain high on our fun-time list.

We are, undoubtedly, the Fun Couple of the Year.

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When Strangers Want Money

I spent yesterday in Indianapolis while Pam attended one of her CPA continuing education classes. She gets to sleep while I drive down, and then I kick around at music stores, computer stores, and a wonderful used bookstore in the Castleton area. Before leaving Indy, we eat at Skyline Chili.

As we left Skyline, a fellow probably 55-60 years old approached the car timidly and motioned for me to roll down the window. He was dressed in older clothes and a stained jacket, and wore a cap, but didn’t look unkempt in any way. A respectable appearance.

He quickly told me his story about moving recently from St. Louis, having an accident and breaking his ankle, and several other things going badly. He was also diabetic, and needed a little over $19 to get insulin at Wal-Mart. He said he only had $3 on him. He assured me he didn’t smoke or drink. Could I help him?

As he told me this story, he kept looking down, trying not to make eye contact. He knew I didn’t believe him. The thing is, if I found myself in his position, a proud fellow who had no other options, I would have acted and spoken in exactly the same way he did. It had the ring of truth. But it could just as easily have been a well-practiced act.

When he finished, I looked at Pam and said, “How about it?” Then I pulled a $20 bill from my wallet and gave it to him. He thanked me profusely, shook my hand with a strong grip, and said, “God bless you.” And then we drove away.

I don’t know if I got taken or not. Probably did. But I don’t care. People will tell me I should have taken him to Wal-Mart and purchased the insulin for him, just to make sure how the money is used (and to call any bluff that needs to be called). I’m aware of these principles. Time didn’t allow that.

A Christian should err on the side generosity, not on the side of suspicion, cynicism, and stinginess. I’ve erred like this before, and will again. I feel a lot better about that than telling guys like this, “Sorry, buddy. Look somewhere else.” And even when I do get conned, I think Jesus smiles with satisfaction.

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Over the Crest of the Hill

Today I am 50. Half a century. I hereby claim the right to be unrepentantly crotchety and cranky.

Also 50 years ago, the Hungarian Revolution broke out. So in Hungary, they are celebrating my birthday with fireworks and other raucous behavior. The Soviets crushed the revolution 12 days later. Yet I, safe in my Indiana crib, lived to fight another day.

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Friday Night Football

Last night I went to a high school football game for the first time since I was a sophomore in high school, back in Lake Havasu City, Ariz. I never attended a football game at the California school where I attended my last two years of high school, and haven’t attended one since. Haven’t had a reason to. But last night Pam’s niece, Kelsey, was playing the sousaphone in the Whitco marching band, and since Pam’s Mom and step-dad were out from California, we all went.

They honored the Whitco team that won the state championship 20 years ago. Probably 40 players from that team, along with coaches and various other personnel, including five cheerleaders, were lined up in front of the home crowd during halftime, and the announcer read off information about each one–name, the person’s position/role in 1986, where the person lives now, and where he/she works. I was amazed that the vast majority of them still live in the general area, with a large number still in South Whitley. Interesting. Only one guy was wearing his letter jacket, or could fit into his letter jacket, and he was serving in the military in Alabama.

Beyond that, I have no great insights to share. No wise ruminations about then-and-now, how sports brings a small town together, kids today vs. in my era, and nonsense like that. So I’ll stop.

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The Obnoxious Cellphone Guy

Last Saturday the hotel sent me a 4:30 a.m. wakeup call so I could get to the Phoenix rental car terminal, return my rental car, take the shuttle to the airport, check my bag, wade through security, and make my 8:00 flight. Which turned out to be way more than enough time. A 5:00 wake-up call would have done it.

On the flight from Phoenix to Chicago, a guy was talking on his cell phone as our plane taxied onto the runway. A passenger a few rows up turned around and told him to turn it off–“It’s dangerous,” he said. He hung up and said he was turning off the phone. But as the plane began rising from the runwway, become airborne, I looked back (he was just behind me, across the aisle), and he was leaning down in his seat talking on the phone again. He thought if people couldn’t see him, they wouldn’t hear him. Wrong.

“Hey, turn it off!” I instructed sternly. Another passenger told him the same thing. He kept talking. “Don’t mess around!” I said, sternlier. “The other passenger said the exact same thing. And the guy finally hung up. Jerk.

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A Friend from Way Back

Gilbertsons

Steve and Donna Gilbertson book-ending their three kids.

Last Thursday, while in Phoenix, I stopped in to see my old friend Steve Gilbertson. He’s planting a church called Sanctuary in Cave Creek, a very interesting outlying community in Phoenix–a touch cowboy, a touch bohemian, several touches of other things. After the conference ended for the day, I drove out to the new house they are ready to move into.

Steve goes back farther than any other friend I have–back to junior high youth group days in Lake Havasu City, Ariz. His dad and my dad were good friends at the United Brethren church there. Steve and I quizzed together on some championship quiz teams. He went into the ministry, and in 1989 followed my dad as pastor of the UB church in Fountain Hills, Ariz., also part of the Phoenix metro area. He left there a couple of years ago, and is now doing what he’s always had a passion for doing: planting a new church.

Steve and Donna asked me where I wanted to eat. I said, “Something local. Anything but a chain.” Donna said, “We don’t have any chains here.” Which is fascinating. There’s a Dairy Queen, but that’s it. Cave Creek doesn’t allow street lights, so the place is kind of dark at night; that, too, is fascinating. They suggested a variety of places, and we settled on a steakhouse called The Satisfied Frog. The hysterical part is that The Satisfied Frog is just down the road from a restaurant called The Horny Toad.

We talked and talked and talked, which is what Steve and I always do when we get together. He’s a truly independent, unconventional thinker, and I like to fancy myself that way. This is a friendship I greatly cherish, and which has endured strong for 30 years.

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The MinistryCOM Conference

Last Thursday and Friday I attended the MinistryCOM conference in Phoenix, Ariz. I hadn’t heard about this organization until I received an email about it. It’s designed for church communications professionals, which is my gig in life. This was their second annual convention. I’ll plan to attend every year.

Most of the attendees came from large, large churches which actually need someone to work fulltime in communications. Some had entire communications departments. This takes in a bunch of areas: marketing, graphics, the internet, public relations, information technology. The focus was more strategy than techie.

The level of competence, creativity, and commitment (three C’s! I should write sermons!) was extraordinary. I gained something from every keynote session and every seminar (most conferences throw in at least a few losers).

We met at Christ’s Church of the Valley, a 10,000-person church in Peoria, on the northwest side of the Phoenix metro area. My goodness, what a sprawling campus! The property at CCV, as it’s known, featured many buildings; this being Arizona, you don’t need hallways and enclosed walkways. The church holds four services each weekend–two on Saturday, two on Sunday. They promote them as “identical services.” Off of the sanctuary was a bookstore, a nice coffeehouse (with wireless access), and a scramble-system food court. Scores of tables sat outside, most under umbrellas or open-sided enclosures. Southwestern architecture is my favorite, and this church uses it beautifully.

When MinistryCOM attendees identified themselves, they usually gave the size of their church, not in a pecking order kind of way, but for context. I concluded that churches below 2000 round off to the nearest 100 (nobody said, “We have 1750 people”), churches above 2000 round off to the nearest 500 (so there’s no 5300, just 5500), and somewhere around 7000 or so, they begin rounding off to the nearest 1000. My size of church rounds off to the nearest 5 (do I say we have 120 people, or 125?). I didn’t meet anyone in a church with less than 1000 people, but my experience, in our denomination, is that they round off to the nearest 50.

I learned a lot, and I’ll inflict it upon my blog in the days ahead.

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