An article in the New York Times, called “Sex Offenders Test Churches’ Core Beliefs,” tells about a church in Carlsbad, Calif., that is embroiled in a controversy about a convicted sex offender who wishes to worship there.

Mark Pliska, 53, told the Pilgrim United Church of Christ congregation that he had been imprisoned for molesting children, but he wanted a place to worship and liked Pilgrim, where a banner inside says, “All are Welcome.”

The pastor talked to members who had been abused as children, and to parents, and none objected to Pliska attending. But as he continued getting the feel of the congregation, he found some people saying, “If he stays, I leave,” and others saying, “If he leaves, I leave.” A no-win situation.

Rick Warren says that people with AIDS are the lepers of today–the outcasts, the people nobody wants to be around. But I suspect that churches are more welcoming of people with AIDS than of child sex offenders. I would say that child sex offenders are today’s lepers.

A half-century ago, when divorce was uncommon and highly taboo, churches didn’t know what to do with a divorced person. I suspect many of them felt unwelcome. Now our churches are (regretably) filled with divorced people. Today, many conservative churches don’t know what to do with gay people. But child sex offenders–they simply revolt us. And society constantly reinforces that attitude. We’re told that “Once a child molester, always a child molester.” We want nothing to do with them. We don’t want them in our pews.

My church, Anchor, fortunately, is not like that. And maybe churches are more loving and accepting than I think they are. But in some conservative churches, you can hardly be a Democrat and be fully accepted, so I’m confident sex offenders are way over the acceptance edge.

As always, it’s instructive to ask, “What would Jesus do?” This person who embraced lepers, whose heart went out to prostitutes, to society’s untouchables. Would Jesus exclude a child sex offender from fellowship? Of course not. But Christians have a lot of trouble being like Christ.

For now, Pliska has been asked to not attend worship services at Pilgrim, though he does meet with a weekly small group. Good for them. This man is homeless, and thanks to publicity over the church controversy, he lost his job. He yearns for Christian fellowship, but finds himself accepted by some and reviled by others. Life is incredibly difficult for him, but if you say that, people will respond, “But what about his victims! Look how difficult he made their lives!”

It’s a tough situation. But how can a church keep its soul when it tells certain people, despite the fact that they are repentant and spiritually hungry, “Because of your past, you aren’t welcome here”?