Monthly Archives: July 2006

A Grief Overlooked

Bob and Becky are very faithful at Anchor, and truly nice people. Quiet, unassuming, gracious people, somewhere in their late 50s I’m guessing. I like them a lot. They always sit on the end of a row, and their faithfulness blesses me as I stand up front at the keyboard each Sunday. I don’t know how long they’ve been coming to Anchor–maybe a couple years. They live on the next street over. I greatly value them as part of Anchor, though I don’t know them well.

A couple weeks ago it was announced during the service that Becky’s brother had died that week. It evidently didn’t register with people, because a couple weeks later I learned that Becky received a sympathy card from just one person in the church. And it wasn’t us.

I felt terrible about that. So did others. People moved into action–belatedly, but out of real concern for Becky’s grief. The loss of a brother is a big deal. Somehow, Becky’s loss got lost in our midst, and that just shouldn’t happen. Certainly not in a church of our size. We pride ourselves on being a warm, friendly church. What happened with Becky isn’t typical of Anchor–at least, I hope it isn’t. But it happened, and it shouldn’t have.

I thought of my brothers, and what it would mean to lose one of them. We’re all close. It would devastate me.

With that in mind, this Sunday before church I sat down with Becky and asked questions about her brother–where he lived, were they close, younger or older, etc. She opened up, and I think she appreciated my interest, which was genuine. And I thoroughly enjoyed talking to her. This is a woman I want to get to know a lot better, because in her gentle quietness, I sensed a real strength and character.

I’ve got to pay closer attention to what’s happening in people’s lives. All of us do. It’s part of being a community.

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Reese Witherspoon Weekend

Pam and I watched two Reese Witherspoon movies this weekend on DVD. Just worked out that way. On Friday night we saw “Just Like Heaven,” a nice romantic comedy in which she was, basically, in the ghost species. Nice flick, happy ending, PG-13, no bad language.

Tonight we watched “A Far Off Place,” a 1993 movie set in Africa. She was very young back then, and played a tomboy. Interesting contrast to her “Legally Blonde” movies. A totally clean PG-rated flick. So, a couple of good movies. Hurray for Reese Witherspoon.

Good night.

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Recycling the Same Stuff

I really like the book “Velvet Elvis.” It’s author, Rob Bell, is pastor of the Mars Hill church in Michigan, a different kind of megachurch. We’ll be hearing more about him in the years ahead. He’s probably the Bill Hybels of the postmodern generation. But my first real exposure was through “Velvet Elvis.”

One part, though, made me mad.

In one of his later chapters, Bell described the educational system in Jesus’ day. This was fascinating. From roughly age 6 to age 10, kids studied the Torah (the first five books of the Old Testament) at the local synagogue under a rabbi’s teaching. By age 10, most students would have those five books memorized. So Jesus went through this process.

The best students went on to the next level, which lasted until around age 14. The other students “dropped out” and learned the family trade. No dishonor in that. By age 14, these better students might have the entire Old Testament memorized. Jesus, I’m confident, did.

After age 14 or 15, only the best of the best remained; the others went back to the family business. These best-and-brightest students would apply to become a disciple of a rabbi, learning to copy that rabbi in every way. The rabbi would grill the kid to see if he was worth the investment. If accepted, the kid would join that rabbi’s band of disciples and follow him everywhere.

Then, about the age of 30, you would be considered a rabbi and would begin your own teaching and training of disciples. That, of course, is when Jesus began his public ministry. But Jesus, instead of choosing from the “best of the best,” chose lowly fishermen who probably washed out at age 10. In the eyes of other rabbis, he probably chose poorly.

All of this is fascinating background and sheds enormous light on Jesus’ childhood and the whole nature and perception of his public ministry.

And that’s what makes me mad.

Why hadn’t I ever heard this before? I’ve sat through thousands of sermons and Sunday school classes and seminars, and I’ve never heard this. This is a fundamental understanding of Jewish culture and rabbinical ministry, and it illuminates so much of what was happening with Jesus and his merry band of followers. Do we just keep regurgitating the same information? Hadn’t anyone bothered to explore education in Jesus’ time?

I’ve got a stack of books by Christians about how to lead small groups. They all say basically the same thing‚Äîsame principles, same advice, same methods (except for Em Griffin, who does plow new ground). One time I was in a public library and discovered some secular books on small group dynamics. I browsed through a couple and discovered all kinds of stuff I’d never seen before. Fascinating insights into group behavior. Do Christian authors just keep recycling and repackaging stuff already written by other Christian authors?

Well, thanks, Rob Bell, for teaching me something truly new. Assuming that your info is accurate.

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A Post Just to Post

Well, at least I put in one day of work this week. My jaw remains swollen and ouchy. I took a pain pill just before arriving at work, and for a while felt a bit woozy. That may or may not be a correctly-spelled word.

At 3 pm I met Dad at Lowe’s to help him get their new washer and dryer. My Dakota comes in handy. At their place, I upgraded the system software on Dad’s iMac and got it connected to their new Brother all-in-one printer and connected to the internet with Dad’s Juno account. Dad totally renovated our basement, put in a couple ceiling fans, and wreaked numerous other improvements upon our house. My handyman skills stop at installing system software and drivers.

The local paper in South Bend did a big article on Mom and Dad, focusing the story around the Pelley murders 17 years ago. The paper said Dad was 74 and Mom was 75. Actually Mom is 69 (always 20 years older than me). She thought the mistake was funny. Good for her.

There, aren’t you glad you read this?

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Fun Times with Oral Surgery

Although there is no biblical precedent for it, this morning I allowed an oral surgeon to plant a titanium post in my jaw, into which a fake tooth will someday be screwed. He was supposed to do two posts, but some complication related to lack of sufficient bone mass prompted him to put the second one on hold to a later date, which I can look forward to with eager anticipation.

As I type, my jaw is swollen, and I just finished swishing around for 30 seconds a truly horrible fluid which, I suspect, was bottled a few hundred yards downstream from a Russian petrochemical plant.

Tomorrow, the oral surgeon assured me, will not be a banner day in the anals of Dennie pain management. I can hardly wait.

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My Parents Say Good-Bye to the Lakeville Church

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Don Dennie, my dad, talking to parishioners at Olive Branch UB church in Lakeville, Ind.

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Yesterday, July 2, my parents retired…again. It was their last day pastoring the Olive Branch United Brethren church in Lakeville, Ind., just south of South Bend. Pam and I drove up for the service. We had attended their final service at Third Street UB church back in 1998, the last time they retired. This was a tremendous day, and I felt so grateful for the way this congregation showered love and appreciation on my parents.

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Mom at the piano (for the last time?). A photo of her Sunday school class sits on the piano.

My parents originally came to Lakeville in 1989, just a few months after the previous pastor and his wife, along with two young daughters, were shotgunned in the church parsonage. Mom and Dad moved back from Arizona to serve this shattered congregation, and over the next five years helped bring a great deal of healing. They then moved on to serve three years at the Third Street UB church in Fort Wayne, Ind.–the predecessor of my current church, Anchor. Next came a brief interim stint in Convoy, Ohio, and then they, uh, retired.

And got bored. Four years ago they returned to Olive Branch in an interim capacity, were asked to throw their hat in the ring during the pastoral search (which they did somewhat reluctantly), and got voted in. But this year, my parents felt it was time to move on. Or, to move back to their home in Fort Wayne, and then figure out what the next chapter of their life will hold.

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Superman Returns

Went to see “Superman” this afternoon. I liked it. This new guy, Brandon Routh, makes a good Superman, though maybe I think that only because he looks so incredibly like Christopher Reeve.

Don’t care for Kate Bosworth as Lois Lane. Margot Kidder was a better Lois Lane, though Terri Hatcher is the ultimate Lois. Kevin Spacey was a hard-core Lex Luthor, compared to the somewhat comedic Gene Hackman.

The little exchange between Superman and Lois about the world needing a savior was quite interesting. I’m sure, once it’s out on DVD, that clip will show up in numerous church services as a sermon illustration.

Pam and I watched “Munich” last weekend. I read the book upon which it was minimally based back in the 1980s, when people still said the story never happened. Reviewers played up the angst which the Israeli assassins felt, but I was actually a bit disappointed with that part; I though the hype exceeded the substance. But the action was good, and I enjoyed the movie. It just wasn’t what I expected.

Okay, that’s enough pop culture fluff for this week.

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